‘Why Spiritual People Prefer Solitude’ – Inspired by Alan Watts
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I walked away from crowded days,
From voices lost in fleeting haze.
The world kept calling, soft yet loud,
A dreamer’s play beneath the cloud.
They ask me why I stay alone,
Why laughter fades to quiet tone.
It isn’t hate that keeps me still,
But peace that waits beyond the will.
For when you wake from sleep so deep,
You learn the cost of thoughts you keep.
The masks we wear, the words we trade,
Are echoes in a game we’ve made.
I love the souls I chance to meet,
Yet silence feels more pure, more sweet.
No need for names, no need to prove,
Just being here, no need to move.
The visitor brings worldly air,
With dreams to chase and things to share.
But I have found a softer sound,
Where self and seeking can’t be found.
It isn’t scorn, it isn’t pride,
Just tides that pull from deep inside.
For when you touch the nameless sea,
You lose the urge for company.
Stillness sings its sacred song,
Where nothing’s right and nothing’s wrong.
The heart expands, the borders fall,
And love is felt within it all.
So if I walk the woods alone,
Know I am never on my own.
Each leaf, each star, each breath, each wave,
Is friend and teacher, wise and brave.
Loneliness is not my fate,
It’s where I learn to resonate.
The soul that wakes must softly stand,
And feel the pulse of all that’s planned.
So let me drift where quiet grows,
Where time dissolves and stillness flows.
For in the hush, I hear it clear—
The world itself is whispering near.
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Why the Spiritually Awake Prefer Solitude
In a world that celebrates constant connection, the spiritually awake often choose to walk a quieter path. Their solitude isn’t about rejecting people—it’s about protecting the clarity that comes when the noise fades and the mind settles into stillness.
Alan Watts once reflected on this tendency in his talk – “Why Spiritually Awake Don’t Like Visitors.” – He observed that those who experience spiritual awakening often find ordinary social interactions strangely heavy. The endless chatter, expectations, and rituals of human relationships begin to feel like echoes of an old dream—pleasant at times, but distant from the reality they now perceive.
When someone awakens to the deeper nature of life, they begin to see that much of what we call “relationship” is a subtle game of identities. We meet not as pure beings, but as roles—friend, colleague, parent, or guest—each carrying assumptions and boundaries. The spiritually awake person begins to sense how artificial these masks are. They see through the polite small talk, the unspoken competitions, the need to fill silence. What they crave instead is authenticity—communication that arises from presence, not performance.
This doesn’t mean that awakened people dislike others. In fact, their compassion deepens. They feel more connected to life than ever before. But their sense of connection no longer depends on proximity or conversation. They can feel intimate with the world in silence. A bird’s song, a rustling tree, or even the quiet hum of existence can be enough companionship.
Visitors, though well-meaning, often bring with them the weight of the ordinary world—its anxieties, its schedules, its endless drive to “do.” For someone who has glimpsed the timeless flow of being, this energy can feel discordant. It’s not judgment—it’s sensitivity. When you’ve tasted deep stillness, noise becomes louder; when you’ve experienced freedom from the self, the return of ego feels suffocating.
Solitude becomes, therefore, not a rejection but a sanctuary. It allows the awakened person to remain in tune with the rhythm of the universe. They may still love deeply and care profoundly, but their way of loving is quiet. It doesn’t need to possess or entertain. It simply allows.
For those still immersed in the rush of everyday life, this preference for alone-ness can be misunderstood as detachment or coldness. Yet, as was pointed out, true solitude is not loneliness. Loneliness longs for company; solitude delights in the company of all things. It is being alone without feeling separate.
The spiritually awake don’t avoid visitors out of arrogance or disinterest—they simply value the sacred silence in which truth is heard. When others enter that space, they hope for the same presence, the same willingness to just ‘be’ If that’s missing, they prefer the companionship of stillness itself.
In the end, awakening doesn’t make one antisocial—it makes one real. And sometimes, reality speaks best in silence.
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